In Italy, the vast majority of the population — except for immigrants — is 100% Italian: all of their ancestors lived in the area that, nowadays, is known as Italy. It goes without saying that if you want to date real Italian singles, you must live in Italy and start looking for men in Italy. On the other hand, very few Italian-American born and raised in the US are 100% Italian or have lived in Italy for a long period of time. Sadly, I even met Americans who became Italian citizens a long time ago and don't speak fluent Italian yet.
Anyway, what you probably don't know is that… dating doesn't exist in Italy! You can't really date an Italian man or woman. In Italy, dating a person means that you are in a relationship with this person (not necessarily a long-term relationship). In the US and other Anglophone countries, dating is a phase that usually precedes a relationship proper. Also, it is not uncommon to "date" as many people as possible, until you find the one you want to start a relationship with. On the other hand, in Italy you don't usually "date" anyone: people meet through their friends, relatives, work etc. and then decide to start a relationship if they are both interested. Dating as many people as possible doesn't belong to Italian dating customs or etiquette, and is almost always frowned upon and considered inappropriate behavior.
Don't forget: when in Rome, do as the Romans do. Literally.
The reality is that living in the most beautiful places of Italy is expensive. It is no accident that only rich artists, such as George Clooney, can afford a decent lifestyle in Italy or a decent wedding in Italy — Venice, in his case. Tom Cruise's third wedding with Katie Holmes, celebrated in a castle not far from my house, was absolutely gorgeous, but certainly not cheap. More importantly, wealthy men — or women — especially world-famous actors and singers, have no trouble getting a visa, simply because they can buy a permanent one for €500.000 (more than half a million US dollars). Needless to say, if you also frequent luxury venues such as the Billionaire (see billionairelife.com), you will go broke in no time — assuming you had enough money in the first place. Anyway, it is a known fact that only the wealthy could afford to travel and live overseas without much hassle. On the other hand, even dreams have their drawbacks: in fact, any rich man, or rich woman, will soon realize that Italy has one of the highest tax burdens in the world. This is a great way to upset your rich spouse.
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In the meantime enjoy this beautiful Italian commercial I worked for (Calzedonia: Life Is a Journey) with Julia Roberts. Filming locations: United Kingdom (Scotland, part 1), France (Paris, part 2), and more importantly Florence (ending), which just happens to be the city she chooses to live in because the view is breathtaking:
In theory, the best solution is going to Italy and starting to look for a good guy. Don't make the mistake of hanging out with expats only: you need to meet as many locals — and as many singles — as possible instead, otherwise your trip is useless. Regardless of the outcome, you will definitely enjoy the myriad of beautiful places that Italy has, there is no question about it. After all, we are talking about one of the most beautiful countries in the world.
However, why not invite an Italian man to your hometown? Some Italians are willing to move, as long as they don't lose their job or they can find a new one. It can be a great way to date and get to know each other. Also, you could go to Italy and Europe — Paris/France, Madrid/Spain, London/England, you name it — on vacation together with him whenever you want: all these places belong to the same area (smaller than the US).
A common misconception is that Italy has some "places" where singles meet. I have received emails from ladies asking «Where do I find a husband in Italy?», «Where do I find a boyfriend in Italy?», «Where are all the available men?» or «I want to marry an Italian man: how can I find a good man?». In other words, they wanted an "address" where they could find a man. The reality is there is no such thing as a specific place (or places) for singles in Italy. Other countries may have this concept, but not Italy. In theory, any place can potentially be the good one, as long as you are fluent in Italian and therefore able to communicate and get to know people. Having the highest number of romantic getaways in the world, Italy is a great place to find a nice man to date, to have a serious relationship with, or to get married.
Granted, if your name is Juliet, you live in Verona, and your boyfriend is called Romeo, your love life may not be that easy though.
In the picture: a couple that got married on Juliet's balcony, Verona, Italy. William Shakespeare didn't imagine this could be real.
On the other hand, other women just ask «How do I find single Italian billionaires?», which is ludicrous to say the least… but that's another story.
While Italy is one of the most beautiful countries in the world, if not the most beautiful, it is also one of the most bureaucratic. Everything requires you to go through a lot of red tape, all the more so if you are going to get married. This is very different from the mentality of the US or of English-speaking countries in general. Requirements for foreigners, US citizens included, are strict. In addition, you don't even speak — or read — fluent Italian, so you draw your own conclusions. That being said, you don't have to worry: I will take care of everything quickly. I get paperwork done every day, in Italy and abroad. I am very familiar with Italian bureaucracy and legislative system.
Regardless of religions, nobody denies that masterpieces such as St. Peter's cathedral in Rome — by Michelangelo — or St. Mark's basilica in Venice — also known as the "church of gold", since some of its ancient mosaics are actually made of gold — are undisputed architectural milestones in human history. The list of buildings is much longer though — in the order of hundreds of churches — and I suggest opening an encyclopedia of art and architecture if you are interested.
Yep. Michelangelo's Capitol Palace — if you thought that "the Capitol" in Washington DC was an original idea… well, you were wrong, because the real Capitol Hill dates back to the Roman Empire — now houses Rome City Hall, which is where civil weddings are celebrated. Every day, couples from all over the world (Japan, Australia, China, South Africa, USA, Canada…) choose that place to get married: I come across them every time I go up there. The list of buildings is much longer though — in the order of hundreds of thousands, considering all the Italian provinces — and, again, I suggest opening an encyclopedia of art and architecture if you are interested. For the record, the palace chosen by George Clooney is a mansion belonging to the former Republic of Venice, built about 1000 years ago.
Everyone would like to live la dolce vita in Italy, which is also the best way to date an Italian man. But if you don't have enough money, or you don't have a visa, you could try online dating. Finding a man online is possible, but the main drawback is that online dating is not very common in Italy, and the few Italian dating websites or apps are not as popular as they are in America. More specifically, dating apps are usually considered garbage, and most Italians prefer to meet people in real life without online dating. Besides, distance is going to be a major problem in the long run: you will necessarily have to travel or invite him sooner or later. In fact, some people confuse international dating with long distance relationships: although I love to travel internationally, in my opinion long distance relationships are not even relationships. Two people should be together and get to know each other. International dating means that two people want a real relationship by expanding their horizons and looking for a significant other outside of the usual group of local singles.
First of all, this page is not about online dating, but real dating. This page is not the usual "man seeking woman" profile either. That being said, dating websites and apps, excluding the usual fake profiles created by the site/app owners just to fill the database up, are full of "people" who — with a few exceptions — don't talk, much less travel. I still wonder what they are doing there. Sex workers are not rare though, and, in this case, we all know what they are doing there. So, yes, online dating might work well if you need short and superficial sexual relationships, assuming you are lucky enough to get them for free: most likely, you will not get anything at all, and your time will be wasted anyway. This is because dating apps and websites are conceived to retain as many trapped users as possible: if everyone found a partner right away, nobody would need to use the app or the website again! Basic marketing. And to add insult to injury, they will ask you to pay for silly "premium" services.
Curiously, the most popular "dating" app is Tinder, which is also the most ridiculous. Other apps have been trying to oust Tinder for a long time, unsuccessfully, despite plenty of fake ads and plenty of "happy couples" who met through the nth new app and are now married with kids etc.
Mind you, in theory it is possible to find a serious person on a dating app/website, but in practice it is extremely difficult. Being a complete waste of time, in my experience it is not worth it.
It is not uncommon to come across blogs that try to support this argument. The typical complaints are «Attractive Italian men only want sex», «Italian men are so cute, and cheaters», «Handsome Italian men are players», «That hot Italian guy was a total jerk». The reality is: they never describe any real evidence, let alone statistically significant scientific and/or academic data. Occasionally they may come up with a "survey", conducted by their favorite magazine or website — not exactly scientific and/or academic sources. Most bloggers, usually American ladies, tell their own experiences or their girlfriends' experiences: in brief, they didn't manage to maintain a relationship with their Italian partner — or didn't manage to start one at all — which is why they are still very upset. Anyway, I don't doubt they might have had a bad experience and I respect everybody's opinions… but they are just opinions, more often than not belonging to frustrated people who generalize their failures, and project their own inability to build a long-term relationship onto others. The rationale is: «We broke up? It's because every Italian man is an imbecile and now I hate them!» Curiously, they don't have an American man either, nor do they have a French man, a Spanish man or whatever.
On the other hand, people like the Clooneys enjoy the unique beauty of Italy without ranting and raving or wasting time on Internet forums, blogs or Facebook. Quite a different approach…
As a matter of fact, compulsive cheaters and/or sex addicts can be found anywhere in the world, not necessarily in Italy. Aren't there any cheaters in the US, to pick just one example?
Seeing Italians as "sex machines" — for better or worse, depending on one's preferences — is obviously a distorted picture of reality. In any case, what you will not find elsewhere is… the place: Italy is unique, and, believe it or not, this may improve your sex life too: would you prefer to spend a romantic weekend in Italy, or on the outskirts of Detroit?
For what it is worth, my suggestion is: you can make the most of Italy (and Italian men) but it all depends on you. Choose the right person, bring out the best in you, don't blame others for your own failures, and choose the right place — which doesn't necessarily mean living in Italy all the time: the world is much bigger and there is a lot to see. Your success is in your own hands: if you are looking to date with the intention of and the willingness to commit to a long-term relationship, invest your time in getting to know someone who is also seeking the same, and you will not be disappointed, no matter where your partner comes from.
We all know that distinguished elite professional women want to date successful men. But we also know that it is not easy to find the right person. Well, don't be too picky, otherwise you are going to argue with everyone. In any case, a successful professional doesn't give up easily, is diligent in his or her work, ambitious, smart, intelligent, educated, and patient. For example, I firmly believe it is possible to find this kind of person. No matter what your job is, I will value it and you will always have time for your career. I love my career and I want to date a woman who loves her career too. However, I will prioritize the relationship with my partner by finding a balance, and so should you. Having the same goals is the best way to make a relationship work.
Incidentally, being successful doesn't mean being "rich". Should I get a rich woman who does drugs, or cheats on me, or has a shallow personality — not to say personality disorders — or has the maturity level of a spoiled kindergartener? No thank you, in this case I would be better off alone. I wouldn't let this kind of millionaire woman go out with my dog, much less with me. I am happy with my life and I want to complete it, not ruin it through something that I don't need.
Also, as a former professional marathon runner and a person who has always been passionate about sports, I tend to avoid alcoholic drinks — with a few exceptions, such as low-alcohol beer or wines (Italy has delicious ones, sometimes containing strawberries or cherries) — nor do I use drugs of any kind, which would result in immediate disqualification, or tobacco. Lots of sports-medicine academic articles describe how alcohol may lead to dehydration, may decrease uptake of glucose and amino acids by the skeletal muscles, may alter the body's energy supply, and may impair metabolic processes during workouts. In other words, if you are looking for a man who you can get drunk and smoke weed with, don't bother me. My healthy lifestyle is more important than someone else's addictions.
Well, you need a sugar daddy, not a partner. It is natural that you want to find a partner, or a man to marry, or a man to have a baby with, but if you don't know what the word love means, a rich man is not stupid enough to become your husband, unless he has serious mental problems or has the same lifestyle as the lamented Hugh Hefner. If a man is smart enough to be successful, he is also smart enough not to get played. A relationship is about feelings and common goals, not money. Through money, you won't get anything, let alone security. Your money-hungry behavior actually shows your very insecure personality. Indeed, a bank account will never make you happy. If the contrary were true, banks would be sources of happiness… which they are not: do you remember the 2008 crisis, for instance? By the way, if your only purpose in life is to strike up a relationship with a billionaire, you may need to rethink your life goals.
What is more, the Italian taxation is just crazy, so be careful before trying to find a rich husband in Italy. It is much better to do what famous international celebrities such as Clooney, Pitt, Cruise and many more do: residing elsewhere and going to Italy on vacation whenever you want to. Clooney, Pitt or Cruise are not Italian citizens, but I decided to do the same despite being an Italian citizen. Why not sweeten the pot? Lately, Mark Zuckerberg has been doing the same, and unfortunately so has Kim Kardashian, who married her third husband Kanye West in Florence. It is not easy to be a single millionaire in Italy, because of the high taxes in areas such as Venice, Tuscany, Rome, Naples (chiefly Capri), Sicily.
Speaking of the richest young husband in the world, the CEO of Facebook Mark Zuckerberg was supposed to deliver a keynote address on "technology entrepreneurship" in Rome. Well, I was there on purpose. Too bad he couldn't care less about technology entrepreneurship: after some useless trivia about «the Facebook community» he left in a hurry to go on a dinner date with his wife and then go sightseeing.
Being a great lover of classical and symphonic music, I don't usually listen to other kinds of "music", unless I have reasonable commercial grounds for doing so. Times and technology change, but pop (or rock etc.) music remains one of the traditional cash cows despite the current competitive global market and the advent of digital music. Anyway, while I was walking home after leaving the opera house, I came across some college boys and a tune by Lana Del Rey that was like:
Will you still love me when I'm no longer young and beautiful?
…a short yet eloquent question which makes a good point. This is what love is all about. Food for thought.
And don't forget that money is just money, while love is priceless. It doesn't take a rich man/woman to be rich, happy, and content. What it takes is loyalty, trust, communication and the willingness to compromise, without setting aside intimacy and physical affection. Somebody to share the struggle, the good, the bad, the best and worst times without breaking bad. Now this is what I call love.
"If you want a rich husband, you have to realize that you will never be the #1 priority in his life. Work will always come above you. Money will be above that. So you'll have to settle on being #3 at best. Why would you ever want to settle on being #3?"
False. That is the typical bachelor's life. When one decides to find a woman, the bachelor days are over and she must be his priority.
"If a rich husband travels a lot, for example if you married a businessman, he is more likely to cheat on you, regardless of his age: after 30, after 35, after 40, after 50 or whatever." (For the record, the wife could cheat on him as well in the meantime, but this is another story.)
False. Firstly, no mutual trust means no love. So, don't get a husband or boyfriend who you don't trust. Secondly, there is another simple solution: being together at home, and traveling together. The keyword is: "together". In a real relationship, both people take the initiative, not just one.
"A rich spouse is always busy. No time for you."
False. The word "busy" must not exist in a relationship. The priority is the partner. Or at least this is my mindset — I realize other people may well disagree and behave differently. In any case, if either partner claims to be busy, the relationship is definitely unhealthy. This is also true before a relationship: people who say they want to get to know a person, but are busy all the time, are in conflict with themselves.
At the end of Roman Holiday, the rich princess Audrey "Ann" Hepburn has something to tell us:
She, and the screenplay writers, couldn't have said it better! The director managed to capture a lot of real situations, which are still identical today. I find it incredible that this movie was shot 70 years ago, because Rome, believe it or not, hasn't changed much. Well, after all, it is the Eternal City.
Interestingly, Roman Holiday's story is not just fiction. A few miles from Italy, just after the French border, is the principality of Monaco. When the movie was shot, the American actress Grace Kelly was not married so she was not yet "Her Serene Highness Princess Grace of Monaco", but the director had another flash of genius: Audrey Hepburn playing a serious princess looks like Kelly in the shoes of an unforgotten wonderful (real) princess in Rome (chiefly to go shopping). The unforgotten beautiful Grace Kelly literally personified the American dream: she won the Academy Award for best actress when she was still young, and then became a sovereign in the most beautiful, luxurious, iconic, romantic, glamorous place of the French Riviera on the Mediterranean Sea.
In the picture: portraits in memory of princess Grace of Monaco.
Grace Kelly, who was a devout Christian Catholic and was looking for a good Catholic husband, found her French husband, Prince Rainier — 6,000 miles away from her house in Hollywood/Los Angeles — 40 years before the World Wide Web was invented. So, if you still believe that it is "not possible", or it is "not easy", to find a husband overseas (Italy, France, Spain, Greece…) you fail to consider that well-known couples, born and raised in different continents, managed to build a lifelong successful marriage without the Internet and without telephones.
I was born in Rome on June 5th 1981. I was raised in an area built by Julius Caesar about 2000 years ago, but am now a resident in the Caribbean (San Blas, Panama). I mostly work in California (San Francisco Bay, Santa Barbara, Los Angeles, Santa Monica/Beverly Hills, Long Beach, Orange County, Huntington Beach, Newport Beach, Laguna Beach, Santa Ana, San Diego) and New York (City and Long Island), with short stays in Texas (Dallas, Austin, Houston), Massachusetts (Boston), Florida (Miami, Palm Beach, Tampa, Orlando), Nevada (Las Vegas), Utah (Salt Lake City), Georgia (Atlanta), Pennsylvania (Philadelphia), New Jersey, Illinois (Chicago), Canada (Toronto, Montreal, Vancouver, Edmonton, Ottawa), United Kingdom (London), Germany (Berlin), France (Paris), Monte Carlo (Principality of Monaco), Switzerland (Zurich, Berne, Geneva, Lugano, Ticino), Vatican City, Spain (Madrid), Portugal (Lisbon), Sweden (Stockholm), Oslo (Norway), Dubai (UAE), Singapore, Tokyo (Japan), Australia (Sydney, Adelaide, Brisbane, Perth, Melbourne), though I absolutely love to work remotely from the Caribbean or the countryside of Italy: no traffic and no nuisances whatsoever! Why stay in an office, if today's technology allows you to do anything from the most beautiful natural and historic sites on the World Heritage list? Anyway, although technically my legal residence is now in the Caribbean, I often visit my great family in Italy, where I own property, usually several times a year. Last but not least, I don't have kids and I have never been married.
Full list of US territories I have been to: US Virgin Islands (my favorite), Puerto Rico, Minnesota, Rhode Island, Kansas, Illinois, New Hampshire, Ohio, Nevada, Massachusetts, Montana, New Mexico, Mississippi, Delaware, Arizona, Missouri, Nebraska, Louisiana, Vermont, Georgia, Colorado (especially Aspen), Virginia, North Carolina, South Carolina, Washington, West Virginia, Indiana, New Jersey, Wyoming, Idaho, Oklahoma, Utah (especially Park City), Texas, Wisconsin, Hawaii, Iowa, Maine, Michigan, South Dakota, Tennessee, Connecticut, Alaska, Oregon, North Dakota, New York (especially Manhattan), Maryland, Florida, Alabama, Kentucky, California (especially Atherton and Beverly Hills), Arkansas, Pennsylvania.
Due to the high number of messages I used to get, I am now keeping the whole process more efficient through a chatbot. I was getting too many messages and some of them were totally useless: time-wasters, spammers, scammers, morons of various kinds etc. This new method is excellent instead, because it manages to weed out all of them. It also manages to weed out eternally undecided women, who are a colossal waste of time. The bot will ask you some questions and evaluate your answers. If it determines you are not a time-waster or a scammer, you will start a conversation with me. Also, incomplete or fake messages will be rejected and the sender most likely banned: sorry, but I have no time to waste with anonymous or uninterested people. This webpage is about boyfriends, husbands and serious relationships; it has nothing to do with Tinder or other online dating apps where people just want to play games or are looking for a one-night stand. To activate the chatbot, click or tap the speech bubble and type "I want to meet Giuseppe" (the quotation marks are optional, and minor typos may be ignored). Different openers ("hi", emojis etc.) can trigger the bot to reject your messages.
Unlike most dating websites and dating apps, this is all actually free. Why pay useless subscriptions to find a husband for you, your daughter or your girlfriend? But if you can contact me for free, it doesn't mean that you can misuse or overuse the system: I created it to meet a partner, not to chitchat with random people. I need a determined, goal-oriented, real woman, not a time-waster, an undecided person, a pen pal or an online friend (let alone a spammer). And don't message me saying that you are looking for a "friend over the Internet" or you want to chat "out of curiosity". I prefer a real woman and I have absolutely no interest in getting to know a person who only chats online and doesn't travel. I have been on the Internet since 1995, and I know very well that your idea is a colossal waste of time. Real relationships can only be built in real life.
In the picture: Tiffany, my favorite store in NYC and Rome. Shall we go together?